A long-awaited vacation together!
My husband and I were married in 1997, 29 years ago. We honeymooned in Jamaica. Before this past summer we had not been away together...sans children...since that honeymoon.
Our vacation came at my insistence. My husband does not like crowds and likes our property and home. We have tried a couple of "staycations" and while there were moments of joy, by and large I found that we worked more than we vacationed. All work and no play definitely make me a grumpy girl. In the summer of 2015 my husband still wanted to get things "done" and after taking 5 courses in 15 months while still working full time I needed to get away. The ocean has always beckoned to me and feeds my soul and so my best friend and I went out East for 10 days. It worked and I was ready for another year.
I have a busy job with little down time and five years left until I retire. This past year there was a lot of labour unrest, meaning even more work for those of us not withdrawing services. I had little time to connect with my husband outside of vacation time. Having been married this long because I love him, I prefer if we remain married while I finish out my career and so I told him that if he wanted me to last another 5 years we needed to go away. He agreed. I did some research, ordered a tour book and a map, booked with an online tour company (Pacific Trade Winds...they were amazing! This is not a sponsored post.) after fully checking them out.
On August 8th we flew out for 10 days of "us" time. We needed it. We enjoyed different parts of our trip...me the cooler mountain air - 18-25 degrees Celsius, and he the hot coast - 32 degrees Celsius. We both loved the scenery, the plants and animals, the friendly and helpful people, the fresh fruit, the seafood, the hikes, and the swimming and snorkelling in the ocean. The most common question we were asked was if this was our first trip to Costa Rica. We knew why. If it weren't for wanting to see other countries in the world we would go back again and again.
We did not travel so called "first class", but all of our tours and experiences were amazing. We did not stay in 5 star hotels, but every hotel was clean, comfortable and the staff friendly and helpful. We stayed in towns or nearby and mingled with the people of Costa Rica. We were enriched by their presence. I have vertigo and it affects me most during the heat of the summer. Rough mountain roads do not help. Although it was always in the background and I had to take medication and rest to keep it at bay, I did not have an attack during our trip, it did not stop me from experiencing many moments of joy.
By the time our 10 days were coming to an end my husband did not want to leave Costa Rica...success and relief! Next summer we plan to take our children to Peru, on what we believe will be our last "family" trip as our children are now 22 and 21 and have lives of their own. We have not had a family trip away since we drove out West to British Columbia in 2008...again, it has been too long.
After our trip to Peru we will plan our next couple vacation, likely something closer and simpler again, maybe a tour of culinary Quebec and stays in some historical homes that are now Bed and Breakfast establishments. This is the start of something good.
My advice to others out there...don't wait until your children are grown to vacation together as a couple again. You need to invest time in your relationship - yearly vacations, weekly dates, daily check ins. Your monetary investment can be small (we used to go camping and will again), but it is essential to creating More Joy in your marriage.
I'm beginning to think I might make it to retirement after all!